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Female orgasms. The topic comes with a slew of myths. Some say if a woman can’t orgasm something is wrong with her. Others believe if she doesn’t cum something is wrong with her partner. But it’s not so black and white. There are many ways to make a woman orgasm. So if you are a woman who doesn’t ordinarily cum with regular intercourse or the woman in your life has a hard time having an orgasm with penetration, don’t think something is wrong.

In fact, about 10% of women deal with anorgasmia or the inability to reach orgasm. This may either be primary, secondary, global or situational. Primary means the woman has never been able to reach an orgasm by any means, which is similar to global. Secondary means an orgasm was experienced at some point in the past and, with situational, the orgasm may be experienced in certain sexual situations but not others. For example, your woman may cum within a minute or two of manual stimulation, like masturbation or you stimulating her clitoris with your masculine hands, but not with intercourse.  

The fact is every woman is different. What may turn one woman on and make her cum within minutes may have no affect on another. This is where communication comes in. Not only should women communicate what their likes and dislikes are in the bedroom, but men need to reciprocate. This way ultimate pleasure is reached by both parties...and what a party it will be!

Take, for instance, a woman who doesn’t feel arousal when having her nipples licked. If this is the case then tell your lover it just doesn’t work for you. Don’t let him suck away while you lay back and become bored. If you do then you can kiss your sexual desire goodbye! With boredom it becomes that much more difficult to reach orgasm. Also, I’m a true believer that most men enjoy watching their woman cum. So tell him that you prefer sitting on his face or that switching from doggy style to missionary excites you and brings on the big “O”! Sexual talk alone could bring on arousal and you’ll both be happier for it. However, if your man takes offense to this then he may be a little selfish and only worried about his sexual peak.  

If your man cums before you, don’t feel like your orgasm is forever lost. Tell him (again with the open communication!) that you haven’t cum and ease his hand to your clitoris for manual stimulation. Ladies, if you are looking for a round 2 this may be the perfect way to get it. While you’re naked body is squirming and dancing to the touch of his fingertips, the visual may stimulate him to the point of erection. Ding! Ding! Round 2 begins!  

One of the biggest myths about female orgasms is that the experience should be earth-shattering each time she cums. This is not always true. Some women have orgasms and don’t know it. Others may experience small contractions to the pelvic floor muscles, which may be smaller orgasms leading up to the grand finale! But even then the grand finale may just be the small orgasms, which feel like a peak in the sexual pleasure and then a relaxing feeling shortly after. So listen up ladies and gentlemen. It doesn’t always have to be a screaming “O”, “Ay papi, right there! YES! YES! YEEESSSSS!” It could just be a simple, “Ahhhhhh”, and then an immense rush of relaxation and contentment.  

Remember, only about a third of women experience orgasm regularly during intercourse. Foreplay plays a big part of it. Stimulate her. Arouse her. If she is feeling tingly between her legs, chances are she’ll cum within a few moments of stimulation. Whether it is through penetration, oral sex, masturbation or with the help of a few toys – its up to you!

The key to a great orgasm is communication.  Your man isn’t a mind reader and may think you like the same things other women they’ve experienced do. In order to get your big “O”, be sure to guide him through the journey. 

Ladies, what’s something your partner can do to make you cum? Share your thoughts with Miss Z by leaving a comment.

Miss Z is a seasoned journalist who loves writing about sex and all that sensuality, seductiveness, and freakiness have to offer. With an ear to the streets, Miss Z writes about the topics people want to read about. Whether it be blow jobs or your favorite fetish, "Sexy Little Things" leaves nothing untouched!